|Decrease Stress, Increase Happiness Series:
By J. Arielle Golden
We have many choices in life. We can choose to have stress play a positive or negative role.
When stress serves as an early warning sign that something is wrong, it allows us to respond with positive actions. When stress clouds our judgment or threatens our health, it can harm our lives and our careers.
It’s up to us. How we choose will determine our levels of stress and happiness.
To paraphrase motivational speaker Jim Rohn: You are the average of the five people with whom you choose to spend the most time.
Make a list of the five people with whom you spend the most time. Start with your name in the number one spot. Who is bringing your average up or down?
Choose where you will put your energy at work and at home. Start by hanging out with people who bring the average up. If you think you are the one who is bringing it down, then fake it until you make it. Find someone who you think embodies the positive traits you admire. Choose to behave like the person you want to be.
This doesn’t mean becoming a carbon copy of another person or a phony. First be you. Then observe how the people you admire behave. How do they handle difficult situations? How do they handle angry people? How do they give feedback?
If you’re not sure how to do this, ask a person you admire to be your mentor. Most people will be flattered to share their years of wisdom. As you incorporate this in your life, you may find others will want to be around you. Soon you may find you have become the role model.
It might be easy to limit contact with people in your personal life, but what about the negative people with whom you work?
When I was a first-time manager (with no management training), I found myself with many problems. I asked my boss what to do. She told me I just needed to communicate with my employees. It tried it: longer, shorter, direct, indirect, and finally louder. Nothing worked.
Then I went to a series of seminars, started reading books, and listened to audio programs by positive speakers. The more I worked on myself and my attitude, the better my employees’ attitudes became. The overall stress in the office went down, and we were all able to perform at a higher level.
When situations get difficult, take a moment to assess yourself and your level of stress. Remember the steps:
Now take your reduced stress and increased happiness and please share it with the world.
J. Arielle Golden is a highly sought-after seminar leader, business consultant, and a Licensed Heartmath® Coach. Ms. Golden brings a rich tapestry of experience and knowledge to her keynotes and seminars. Here are just a few of her most requested programs: Communication and Collaboration, Listening Skills, and Developing Your Emotional Intelligence. To arrange to have J. Arielle Golden come into your organization to present a custom program for you, contact our Enterprise Learning Solutions department at 1-800-344-4613.
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I just went to a Franklin Covey seminar on Time Management. It was so much more than what I expected. You first need to access your values, interpret them, and then start implementing them. Stress, unfortunately, is a big one for many working people these days, and even the many nonworking people trying to find a job. Our economy is so strapped that it is sometimes difficult to buy the needed items for daily life. Just remember (can't remember who said it) but you are "To blessed to be stressed", in other words, count your blessings first, health, children, aging parents, having a job, then the rest does not seem to bad. Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative.
After reading this I really sat back and thought "this is so true". I printed this off and tacked this to my board at work, I also sent this in an attachment to all my CSA'S at Northwestern Medical Center. Thanks for sharing this article with me.
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