Start This Way, Every Day
Think about what happened this morning when you looked at your reflection in the mirror for the very first time ... before any cosmetic enhancement took place! What did you say to yourself? Did you say to yourself, “Good morning, Gorgeous”?
Most of us don’t say that, because gorgeous is not what we see. We find all the things wrong with ourselves and begin the process of picking ourselves to shreds. Most of us weren’t taught as children the value of cutting ourselves a break. We’re taught to be humble, not egotistical or arrogant. So learning to find the things great about ourselves isn’t usually a lesson we learn from those who brought us up. To say those things to ourselves violates core values taught to us by those we hold in the highest regard: our parents.
Well, when we think about the results of the negative conversations we have with ourselves, we begin to realize the old garbage in/garbage out mentality. How can we possibly have positive conversations with others if we haven’t learned to have them with ourselves yet? If all I’ve got for myself are recriminations and criticism, then that mentality paves the way for all the conversations I have for the balance of my day ... negative. Not only are my conversations flavored with negativity, my very thoughts become negative. See any kind of self-defeating pattern here?
Experiment with this thing called positive self-image and see if it doesn’t make a difference with you as well. You’ll more than likely find yourself grounded with a more positive self-talk. That will inevitably lead to more positive conversations, particularly with those you find difficult.
The beauty of this concept is ... we get to choose. Each day we can decide for ourselves if we are going to be positive or negative. No matter what happens, our positive or negative state of mind remains within our control.
Try this: each day begin the day with a smile for yourself or maybe a flirtatious wink at that reflection in your mirror. Work up to the “Good Morning, Gorgeous!” greeting if it doesn’t come naturally for you right away.
Then make it a point each and every day to find something about yourself you really like or are grateful for. Before long, thinking positively about ourselves becomes second nature to us. You’ll begin to realize the way you look at your world has shifted and even the most impossible people we live with and work with just don’t seem as impossible anymore.
What would it be worth to you to look forward to each day rather than dreading getting up every morning? You decide!
The information in this article came from National Seminars and STAR12’s Building Better Team Communication training. Sign up for this course or one of our other great training sessions at NationalSeminarsTraining.com today!
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i recently watched chef ann morel on tv and she is a very confident person who is always saying 'hello gorgeous' to the food she prepares! i loved this and thought how good she made everything look and how easy it all came together...i love this and will start using it tomorrow morning!
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